Duggar Girls Chat with Cosmopolitan
In an interview with Cosmopolitan.com, Jill and Jessa Duggar discuss their views on pop culture and relationships. The girls share about the time they accidentally tasted alcohol and offer advice to stars like Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber. Here is the highlighted, censored version of the interview:
How do you deal with temptation?
Jessa: I think in all relationships, [our] goal is just to maintain purity. Sometimes it’s so easy to say like, “Oh, this guy is cute,” and then go with it instead of sitting back and saying, “Is this someone I really want as a future spouse, like someone who will make a good dad to my kids?”
Jessa: We’ve set our guidelines really high, and people will not understand that. But that’s where we purpose in this stage of our relationship to focus on building strong communication... [As] time goes on, maybe at engagement, we’ll talk about hand holding, but we want to save our first kiss for marriage, too.
So you’ve never kissed anyone?
Jessa: Nope — well, I mean my brothers!
Have you ever been curious about what it’s like?
Jessa: I can’t say I haven’t been, but it’s the anticipation, the suspense! It’s like Christmas morning, you know?
Are you going to ask anyone for advice? Jessa: I’m sure I’ll be getting advice from people who are good kissers!
Like who?
Jessa: My parents are pretty good kissers! They very much like to show their kiss in public places, so they kiss in front of us all the time. [And I’d ask] my oldest brother. He’s been married for five years. And friends and people around me who I look up to. But I don’t think it’s too hard to figure out though.
Have you ever gotten any heat for being virgins?
Jessa: We have a self-respect where we feel confident in who we are...
Self-control seems pretty important to you. What are some methods you use and that guys should use? Jill: Self-control comes from within and being willing to just say, “Hey, I’m not going there. I’m not going past this line.At the same time you also have to do what the Bible says. If you have any problem with drinking, don’t go by the tavern.
Have you ever been to a party where a lot of young people are drinking?
Jill: We’ve never like intentionally been to a party where we know there’s going to be a lot of drinking. I’ve been on the fire department for a few years, and there’s people, young people, 18-year-old girls who have died of an OD. You see the effects, and it really makes you stop and think of the consequences for some of these actions.
Have you ever tasted alcohol? You’re over 21.
Jessa: Not on purpose! [Laughs]
Jill: We’re really heavily involved in politics, and sometimes it’s one of those fancy, ritzy events and they serve you what you think is punch and it’s not. You’re like, “Oops, yeah, that wasn’t punch. That was champagne or something.”
What was it like when you accidentally tried it?
Jessa: Like, “What was this? It’s disgusting tasting!” [Laughs]
Jill: Yeah! Pretty much! Got to be graceful about it!
Jessa: I think it’s true you’ve got to develop a taste for that stuff because it don’t taste good.
What’s on your playlist these days? What kind of music do you listen to?
Jessa: We enjoy a variety of types of music. Like a lot my siblings listen to bluegrass music or Southern gospel. Some of us like Celtic music so we have a variety. The types of music we would stay away from would probably be anything that’s kind of promoting things we don’t stand for...
Have you ever heard Miley Cyrus or Justin Bieber?
Jessa: I’m sure we have at one point or another, but it’s not something we have on our personal playlist.
What advice would you give stars like Miley?
Jill: It’s important for whoever — whether it’s Miley, Justin, anyone in the spotlight — to understand they have a whole host of people looking up to them. They’re not just speaking for themselves. The heart of the matter is having good character and setting an example. Because respect is last in our culture today and in pop stars.
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